Beauty rituals are daily, bi-weekly, and monthly routines essential to you and your relationship. Sexy self confidence is gained from pampering yourself. When you feel good about yourself, you feel better with your mate. Your beauty is what attracted him and will continuously seduce him. You are his sexy billboard and all the eye candy he needs. Always remember that men are visual. It’s your looks and style that attracts him before you even opened your mouth. Now that you are in a committed relationship it is so easy to fall into the “I got a man” comfort zone, but you have to continue what you advertised to get him. Although life has become challenging with kids, work, and making intimate time for your mate, you still have to establish a routine of beauty so that you don’t lose yourself along the way. In today’s world there are so many things begging for your man’s attention. It’s your job to keep all his attention and focus on you. So, drop the excuses and mark your calendar with days to pamper yourself. Please note: Harley does not believe you should look “Hollywood” ready everyday. Date night requires special effort. You should never step out with your man looking busted and broke down. My mama always told me, “if you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready.” You are a representation of your man.
What are your beauty rituals? How do you find time in your schedule to make it happen?
We are doing Summer right at School of Seduction. We are a month into our Sexy Dance Camp and the ladies are learning how to shake things up a bit while having fun. We will continue the fun this month with more sexy dance, plus other classes to assist our ladies in enhancing their sexy and confidence. We look forward to seeing you in class:)
School of Seduction party classes are a great way to celebrate a Bachelorette’s last night. These parties are naughty and infused with tips and tricks to take home to her new hubby.
This weekend we are excited to help a bachelorette celebrate with a black lingerie themed party class. Lingerie is such a great dress code for your party attendants. It gives guest the freedom to be sensual, sexy, and glamorous.
Here is an inspiration board of a few looks we loved on Pinterest. Plus, a few tips to make each lady feel sexy and comfortable.
Pick lingerie that makes you feel comfortable and sexy. Take your bestie with you for good feedback.
Be creative in putting your outfit together. Be your own fantasy.
Don’t forget to glamourize with jewelry, sexy heels, and other accessories.
Don’t forget to wear boy shorts, thongs, pasties, or bras to cover the areas other party guest do not care to see:)
Shower, moisturize, and add a sprinkle of smell good.
Throw a sexy dress or jacket on over your outfit. And head out.
Oh, don’t forget your open-mindedness and fun attitude.
Since we are toasting the champagne life and our upcoming Oral Love Class, why not add a sexy lip. I’m Inspired…it is about oral love:) These pouts make me want caviar, a flute of bubbly, and cotton candy for dessert. #certifiednaughty
Confident. Powerful. Beautiful. Sexy. These are the words that come to mind when I see this photograph, taken by the late Marlene Lillian. In 2010, I started Sultry Soiree, now known as the School of Seduction, as an outlet to educate women in many areas of confidence, life, and intimacy. As a part of this dream brand, I wanted to allow woman a space to have professional boudoir photos taken as a gift for themselves or significant other. In my mind I had a vision of what sexy looked and felt like. I needed a photographer who would see my vision in the same light, then came Marlene. She was funny, passionate, and a true artist. I knew she was perfect.
We set a date, began planning, and the ladies signed up. Some were existing students others were new to the concept of my brand. As the coach, I volunteered to be photographed first, as an example to my students. Secretly, my students did not know this would be a challenge for my shy side. Having my picture taken in a sexy manner was one of those moments of discomfort and insecurity for me. At the time one of my best friends, Lala was my assistant, so she helped, we shopped, as well as assisted others in their boudoir vision. We were ready and prepared to have our first marathon boudoir photo shoot, at the elegant Gates House Bed & Breakfast in Columbus, Georgia.
On shoot day I woke up with mixed emotions about the pending day’s events. I was super excited that a dream for my business would come true. But, I was terrified that I had signed myself up to be photographed. It did not matter that I had sexy outfits, or that I was accustom to being viewed as a sex symbol. Or that I was considered the confidence coach for the women who would follow me in the same task. All I could think about was, the thought of a stranger looking at me through her lens. Not just looking, but capturing the way she see saw me. The mere thought made me crazy and ultimately my assistant too. She was in awe, of the sight of my panic.
My assistant told me to find Harley (my alter ego) and pull it together. So, I drove to the B & B to get this terrifying dream day started. I had my face made and got dressed. In walked, my friend Temeshia, student and my class photographer. She was so supportive and excited, helping me laugh away some of the nerves. More ladies started to arrive for makeup and wardrobe. In that moment I was reminded of the lessons I had shared with the ladies over the previous months. The most important lesson being, you have to be confident, no matter who is looking at you or what you think they maybe thinking. So, after a glass of wine, I climbed on this most gorgeous bed, to have my picture taken. The first few clicks were nerve-wracking, but I never said stop. After more than 200 clicks I began to feel Sexy, Powerful, Beautiful, Confident. It was amazing that what seemed so scary just moments before, started to feel glorious, and freeing, and natural.
The day was a success, as I returned to my role as coach and assisted my ladies in having the best moment of their lives. The boudoir sessions have become an important part of the Alter Ego Series, it is the next step in pushing past our comfort zones into confidence. To this day I have used my boudoir photos as an example to my students that if I can, so can you. At the end of the day I am woman, I am a work in progress.
I truly miss Marlene’s laugh and what she brought to my brand. I learned so much about my self through her lens.