A Dare To Love: A Couple’s Retreat

photo(30)20140219-204657.jpgThe day of “Love”.  This year I spent my Valentine’s Day with 12 lovers.  I consider my self a lucky girl.  As the facilitator of this couple’s retreat,  we spent 2 days nestled in a quiet cabin in Helen, Ga.  The theme from the book “Love Dare”.  A 40 day challenge to practice unconditional love in various aspects of the couple’s real life situations.

Intimacy plays a very important role when it comes to loving another unconditionally.  So it was important for us t learn as a group but, to have a space to learn as a couple in private time. Activities as a group included DIY class, cooking, a trip to the winery,  candle light dinner.  It was necessary to separate the men and women.  Cigars and an open conversation with the husbands at a cozy cigar shop gave me a better perspective of their views on romance and sex.  My wives took the cake in a super early morning mini Seduction School lesson, lap dances, strutting in heels, and learning what it takes to build desire.  The evening Sex School session gave us an opportunity to introduce a few toys and tips to revamp the bedroom routine.  Plus, tips on making it happen regardless of mood and schedules.

Although, it was a lot of fun getting to know the group I cherished the one on one (usually late night) chats most of all.  The interesting part about this group was that they were honest with themselves on what the high and low points were in their relationship.  Not being afraid to pull me to the side for a little advice when needed.  The first step is definitely having a desire to do better for your mate.

I am grateful for meeting such a lovely group of loving wives and adoring husbands.  It is honorable that they cherish each other enough to take time away from their kids and careers in nu0rish and invest in their marriages.

XO, Harley

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Behind Closed Doors with Ms. LaVelle

We present the beautiful Ms. Lavelle. . .This gorgeous super woman has taken School of Seduction by storm with her passion for being a mother and keeping her “Man” satisfied, all while writing an environmentally friendly curriculum for schools, and gaining herself another degree, all at the same time.

Six months after having twins, this diva enrolled in my Sexy Refresher course.  She quickly became my class funny girl, with her quick wit and quirky sayings.  She wanted to use the class as a tool to reinvent the sexy she once possessed.  Boy, she definitely achieved that and much more.  From not wearing makeup or wigs, to rocking the diva look every time I have seen her since.  She is the perfect example of my mission statement.

LaVelle was surely the most interesting to work with to produce this Boudoir shoot! Initially she had no vision of what her photos would look like.  On the day of the shoot, she not only had “vision” she had naughty lingerie to match. With a focus on her “alter ego” and the desires of her significant other she went from sweet to sultry with application of lashes and lipstick.

LaVelle brought her whole mommy crew to take class with her and they all did the photo shoot!  I love mommyhood, for wanting to bring sexy back!  Thank you LaVelle for allowing Marlene (Photog), Shanai, (MUA) and myself (Harley) to transform you in to a sexy Pinup!  We hope he loved each image.

Mrs. Sinnamon Boudoir

Introducing Mrs. Sinnamon. . .

A Love Note from Sinnamon:
What a wonderful experience I had with Harley and the other ladies of the Sexy Wife Refresher course !!!  I’m a military wife separated from my husband while he’s on deployment.  Packing and moving every few months left me feeling like just a worker bee and not anything someone would be interested in.  I wanted to take a class that would help me get my sexy back !!!  The classes not only helped me to embrace who I am (flaws and all) but gave me tips on how I could make my husband feel special too when he returns.   The decision to participate in the Boudoir Shoot was the icing on the cake.  I’ll be able to look back on my pictures and recall all the lessons I learned. Thank you for helping me to get back to my old self !!!
Sinnamon (aka Alexia)

Behind Closed Doors with Harley: Valentine’s 2012

It Started with a Class.

How do I begin to tell you about my adventure on February 4, 2012?  For the sake of titles we will call it the Chocolate & Champagne Boudoir Marathon.(Atlanta, Ga). In case you were wondering how this Marathon works, put it this way we took 1 day, 6 naked (semi-naked) ladies, 1 fabulous room, 1 photographer, 1 makeup artist, and only 1 Harley, and produce what would become one of the most memorable moments of this group of wives and mommies lives.  This entire adventure started with a class at the School of Seduction’s. The  2-day “Wife Refresher Course” in Columbus, Ga is where  I had the pleasure of teaching 5 of the ladies participating in this boudoir shoot.   This group of wives went from for some shy, conservative, or just wanting to reinvent their sexy to their husband’s new super sexy girlfriend.  So, ideally the next step in reinventing their sexy was to get them in front of my favorite boudoir photographer’s–Marlene Lillian— lens.

First, there was the consultation to give the women tipping for preparing for their big day.  Two hours and a full belly later we were ready to build a look for Sexy.  It was time to do what we love most shop! Six ladies and a Harley took the mall by storm playing with thongs, lipstick, garters, infused uncontrollable silliness. I spent 6 hours assisting each lady with their visions for their photographs.  By night fall each lady had their arms filled with enough naughty unmentionables to last them a year in the bedroom.

Day of Shoot

After a week of texting and emails about filled with pre-shoot worries I was able to get 6 women feeling confident enough to make the hour and a half journey to one of Midtown Atlanta’s sexiest hotels.  Cars of to-be Victoria Secret models  flooded the valet. The mommy crew stepped out in jogging pants and t-shirts, with suitcases of wigs, lace nighties, and jewelry in tow.  Some ready, some frightened by the pending adventure that lay ahead.  We kept calm as we met the fabulous Shanai Dominique (makeup/hair) of SD Luxuri and the talented Marlene (photographer).

As the jitter increased the ladies started to assemble outfits with hairstyles, and stilettos.  The first lady was up for makeup, the lovely Alexia a.k.a. Mrs. Sinnamon (her Alter Ego).  As she began prepping, I spent the next 8 hours running from lady to lady fixing outfits, being her ultimate “hype” girl, pouring champagne, all while shouting “take that #%^* off, we here to get naked!”  By 8pm we had successfully gotten 6 of Columbus, Georgia’s finest down to their birthday suits. . .Valentine’s for their husband’s will never be the same.  These women went from wife to lap dancer to nude models.  Mission Complete! 

Read more about their experiences (upcoming post) and other women who have been “Behind Closed Doors with Harley”.

Would you unleash your sexy in front of the camera?  Leave me a comment telling your story.  If you would like to participate in the upcoming Boudoir Marathon, email me at Harleyseductionschool@gmail.com.

Me before We

re·sil·ient – Able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions

I am excited to be in our 3rd week of the Alter Ego Class Series in Columbus, Georgia.  I have the pleasure of working with 14 diverse women.  They are resilient, bold, and beautiful, and I look forward to the many lessons they will afford me, as their instructor. Now that I am single, some days I feel as though I am the student–having to reinvent my sexy, and return to the world of dating.  Which by the way is never easy, but definitely can be fun if done with an open mind.  When starting over it seems hard to be optimistic that you will not have to face the same pains in a new relationship.  I understand we have to embrace the lessons learned from relationships past, but not to the point of carrying that hurt into the future.  Although, I learned the hard way, that you ALWAYS put ME before WE!  And, yes I have always known this little lesson, but even the best of us, loose ourselves in others.  Does this make you weak?  Never, it only makes you stronger!  So, as I embark upon this adventure of making over Me, these are the Rules I will play by:

  1. Love Self First!
  2. Date with an Open Mind.
  3. Always put safety first. (i.e. sex, dating, etc.)
  4. Be yourself.
  5. Know what you want.
  6. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  7. Know what you are looking for in a partner.
  8. Know the things you can and can not handle.
  9. Don’t settle!
  10. Who cares what others think!

Have you ever become so absorbed with your lover, family, or friend, that you lost sight of who you were?  How did you get your sexy back?