Kiss Me Under the Berries

It’s that time of year already. . .the season for mistletoe.   You know that cute little piece of greenery, with the little white berries dangling from it.  For centuries the mistletoe has hung above doorways and ceilings during the Christmas holiday.   Just waiting for an unsuspecting lady to get caught under it, making her fair game for a smooch fest from any man catching her.  Sounds real romantic to me–if he was the object of my affection–but some stranger leaning in with a pucker, no.  He would get a kiss in the eye from my fist.  Hey, I’m just saying.  So, to save some faces I will plan my own kissing games, to keep the kisses flowing though out the Holiday season.  So let’s take a moment to brush up on our kissing game.

Harley’s 20 favorite kissing ideas:

1.  Red Light Special- When driving around town, steal kisses at every stop light.  So, take the long way home.

2.  Candid Kissing- Kiss in front of the camera in elevators or when standing near an ATM.  Someones’ always watching.

3.  Wet Kisses- Grab your rain boots and lover.  Enjoy the moment by splashing in puddles and  kissing until you are soaked.  Kissing in the rain. . .romantic.

4.  Sundae Smooches- Drag your lover into the kitchen, make a sexy lip sundae with sprinkles, whip cream,  chocolate, and a cherry to top it off right.  Take your time licking away the toppings!  Relish in the sweet kisses that will follow.

5.  Ice Kiss- While French kissing, pass a small piece of ice between your mouths.  Brrrr!

6.  French Kiss- Lean together into a simple kiss, open your mouths and touch tongues lightly. Enjoy the feeling of your tongues moving against each other. Important point – do not move too deeply into your partner’s mouth.

7.  POST-IT Kiss- Use Post-It notes to make a trail through your house that leads to your lips. Use your sexiest red lipstick to leave your kisses on each note with an arrow pointing to the next note. You, of course, are at the end of the trail with a Post-It note over your lips that says, “LIFT FOR KISS.”

8.  Nip Kiss- Instead of kissing with your lips, lean in close and gently bite your date’s lower lip, being very careful not to bite too hard.

9.  Breakfast in Bed Kisses- Sneak out of bed to make your love a special breakfast.  Use fruit and othe items you can easily feed your love.  Kiss between bites.

10.  Chocolate Kisses- Buy a bag of chocolate kisses.  Remove all the “Kiss” flags, put them in a mini box with the note “REDEEMABLE ANYTIME!

11.  Upside-Down Kiss (Spiderman Kiss)- Have your partner lie on their back or sit in a chair and lean their head back. Lean over and give them a kiss with your heads pointed the opposite direction (noses near each other’s chins).

12.  Butterfly Kiss- Get close to your partner and flutter your eyelids against their cheek, neck, lips, or nose.

13.  Mystery Kiss- Head to the local supermarket or candy shop and each pick out a bunch of flavors you like – this could be things like root beer barrels, toffee, grapes, strawberries, etc. (Jelly Belly’s work well). Don’t show each other what you bought. Take turns closing your eyes while your partner eats a bite and then gives you a French kiss. See if you can guess the flavor!

14.  Tease Kiss- Lean in until your lips barely graze each other’s and pull back slightly. Do this a few times, enjoying the feeling of your partner’s breath, before kissing.

15.  PDA Kiss- With a note or phone call, tell your love to meet you at a certain place and time (e.g. park bench, street corner, ice cream stand) for a present. When your love arrives, have a bow stuck to your lips.

16.  Goodbye Kiss- Send off your love in the morning with a quick kiss. As your love turns to leave, pull him or her back for a second, more passionate kiss.

17.  Ear Kiss- Whisper to your love how special he or she is to you, and then seal your message with an ear kiss!

18.  Hickey- Gently, but firmly suck on your partner’s skin until the area is pink or red. It may be best to do this in an area that can be covered by clothes.

19.  Shocking Kiss– Shuffle around the carpet until you build up an electric charge, lean in close until only your lips meet and give off a spark.

20.  Kiss on the Hand-Take your partner’s hand and give it a light kiss on the top or palm.

Happy Holidays!  Eat. Drink. Kiss!

An Aphrodisiac Holiday Treat

Ginger is our aphrodisiac of the day, because of it’s scent and ability to stimulate the circulatory system.  The holidays are drenched with all sorts of ginger infused goodies, so here’s a decadent spin on the hot chocolate.  This recipe is perfect for sharing with your special someone cuddled up in front of the fireplace.  Enjoy!  Smooches, Harley

Hot Cocoa by cfwhitney
Hot Cocoa, a photo by cfwhitney on Flickr.

Gingery Hot Cocoa (serves 2)

2 cups Milk
1/2-inch peeled, fresh ginger, sliced
4 teaspoons sugar
4 teaspoons unsweetened cocoa powder
4 teaspoons water
Ground Ginger

1.  In a small saucepan, heat the milk and ginger over medium heat until scalding, about 4 minutes.

2.  While the milk is warming, put the sugar and cocoa powder into a bowl.

3. Add the water to the cocoa powder and sugar and stir to make a paste.

4.  Remove ginger from the warmed milk with a slotted spoon.

5. Add the chocolate mixture to the milk and whisk until frothy.

6. Pour the hot chocolate into two mugs.

7. Sprinkle the top with some ground ginger for extra bite.

Me before We

re·sil·ient – Able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions

I am excited to be in our 3rd week of the Alter Ego Class Series in Columbus, Georgia.  I have the pleasure of working with 14 diverse women.  They are resilient, bold, and beautiful, and I look forward to the many lessons they will afford me, as their instructor. Now that I am single, some days I feel as though I am the student–having to reinvent my sexy, and return to the world of dating.  Which by the way is never easy, but definitely can be fun if done with an open mind.  When starting over it seems hard to be optimistic that you will not have to face the same pains in a new relationship.  I understand we have to embrace the lessons learned from relationships past, but not to the point of carrying that hurt into the future.  Although, I learned the hard way, that you ALWAYS put ME before WE!  And, yes I have always known this little lesson, but even the best of us, loose ourselves in others.  Does this make you weak?  Never, it only makes you stronger!  So, as I embark upon this adventure of making over Me, these are the Rules I will play by:

  1. Love Self First!
  2. Date with an Open Mind.
  3. Always put safety first. (i.e. sex, dating, etc.)
  4. Be yourself.
  5. Know what you want.
  6. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  7. Know what you are looking for in a partner.
  8. Know the things you can and can not handle.
  9. Don’t settle!
  10. Who cares what others think!

Have you ever become so absorbed with your lover, family, or friend, that you lost sight of who you were?  How did you get your sexy back?

Pretty Things

What woman doesn’t love pretty things?  Lingerie makes a woman feel beautiful, elegant, and in control.  Take the time to explore different looks and textures in order to discover what makes you feel the sexiest.  I love a luxury lace bra, garter belts, and stockings they make me feel feminine and naughty.  Don’t let the lingerie shop scare you, take a deep breath, and try something out of character, you just might like it!   It doesn’t have to be a special occasion for you to get all dolled up and do some role playing with him!  Perhaps slip into something silky, grab a good book, a glass of wine, and enjoy you! 

Here is a list of my favorite Lingerie Closets:

❤ Agent Provocateur-www.agentprovocateur.com
❤Trashy.com-www.trashy.com
❤Shirley of Hollywood- http://www.shirleyofhollywood.com

❤Naughty Janet-www.janetreger.com

❤3 Wishes-www.3wishes.com

Tips:
  • Don’t forget shoes, makeup, and your hair.  Do it 100%.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask the sales associate for advice and help; take a friend along for fun!
  • When buying online be sure to read the return policy and pick lingerie that will be flattering on you, not the model.
  • Treat your pretty things with love,  when cleaning them; use Wool Lite, hand wash, and hang dry. Read the label.
  • Always keep something naughty in your overnight bag when traveling to add that element of romance.

The Stripper and her Shoes.


There is something erotic about a new pair of 6″ heels. . .  I have always been a girly girl, but never the girl with the shoe fetish!  Until I began my journey in what are considered the “stripper heels”.  Like most new entertainers I started out with the basic pair of clear heels and then graduated into black strappy lace ups, then chic ankle boots, constantly upgrading to a sexier model each month.   I was naive and unaware of the importance of these glamourous shoes.   So I studied the girls around me, to more understand the fetish!  From thigh high boots to red stilettos no matter the girl, each strutted by with an air of confidence and grace.  Their legs looked longer, their calves bulged and those who were not blessed with a great ass went from zero to bootylicious in seconds!  After a few months I had spent more time in these shoes than I had in my own bed. . . and that’s when vicious love affair began.   


With names like Tony, Ellie, and Pleasers they were gorgeous and sleek, dressed in leather sometimes rhinestones that glistened under light like diamonds.  Oh, how I love to accessory the girls with boy shorts and a nice pair of Victoria Secret thigh highs, or sometimes just a thong with ribbon ties!  What I didn’t tell you is that me and my shoes, love a good menage a trois, sometimes in the club and a lot of the times not!   We treat our men like royalty, we give him a slow sultry show allowing the honor of gazing at our presence.  And for that rare man, we’d lurer him in with every click of our heels, cook him dinner (in only our apron of course), and then love him until the sun crosses the sky.  I must say. . . over the past 6 years my shoes and I have become the best of friends, business partners and lovers!  We are each others biggest fan, and I will never betray my six inches!